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What Our Country Desperately Needs is a Leader Who Loves Us
Americans have been treated with contempt for so long that we have become inured to our own society's suffering
I remember seeing a picture of Fidel Castro in a parade with lots of other Cubans. It was during the emergency years, the "special period" when Cuba's relationship with the Soviet Union had collapsed and there was little gas or oil or fertiliser; people were struggling to find enough to eat. It was perhaps Cuba's nadir, as a small Caribbean island nation considered a dangerous threat by its nearest neighbour, the United States - which, during this period, tightened its embargo. Fidel, tall, haggard, his clothes hanging more loosely than usual from his gaunt frame, walked soberly along, surrounded by thousands of likewise downhearted, fearful people: he, like them, waving a tiny red, white and blue Cuban flag. This photograph made me weep; not only because I love Fidel and the Cuban people, but also because I was envious.
However poor the Cubans might be, I realised, they cared about each other and they had a leader who loved them. A leader who loved them. Imagine. A leader not afraid to be out in the streets with them, a leader not ashamed to show himself as troubled and humbled as they were. A leader who would not leave them to wonder and worry alone, but would stand with them, walk with them, celebrate with them - whatever the parade might be.
This is what I want for our country, more than anything. I want a leader who can love us. This is not what we usually say, or think of, when we are trying to choose a leader. People like to talk about "experience" and war and the economy, and making Americans look good again. I care about all these things. But when the lights are out and I'm left with just the stars in a super-dark sky, and I feel the new intense chill that seems to be the underbreath of even the hottest day, when I know that global warming may send our planet into a deep freeze even before my remaining years run out, then I think about what it is that truly matters to me. Not just as a human, but as an American.
I want a leader who can love us. And, truthfully, by our collective behaviour, we have made it hard to demand this. We are as we are, imperfect to the max, racist and sexist and greedy above all; still, I feel we deserve leaders who love us. We will not survive more of what we have had: leaders who love nothing, not even themselves. We know they don't love themselves because if they did they would feel compassion for us, so often lost, floundering, reeling from one bad thought, one horrid act to another. Killing, under order, folks we don't know; abusing children of whose existence we hadn't heard; maiming and murdering animals that have done us no harm.
I would say that, in my lifetime, it was only the Kennedys, in national leadership, who seemed even to know what compassion meant; certainly John, and then Bobby, were unafraid to grow an informed and open heart. (After he left the White House, President Carter blossomed into a sheltering tree of peace, quite admirably.) I was a student at a segregated college in Georgia when John Kennedy was assassinated. His was a moral voice, a voice of someone who had suffered; someone who, when looking at us in the south, so vulnerable, so poor, so outnumbered by the violent racists surrounding us, could join his suffering with ours. The rocking chair in which he sat reminded us that he was somehow like us: feeling pain on a daily basis and living a full-tilt life in spite of it. And Bobby Kennedy, whom a mentor of mine, Marian Wright (later Edelman), brought to Mississippi years later. He had not believed there were starving children in the United States. Wright took him to visit the delta. Kneeling before these hungry children in the Mississippi dirt and heat, he wept. We were so happy to have those tears. Never before had we witnessed compassion in anyone sent out to lead us.
The present administration and too many others before it have shown the most clear and unapologetic hatred for the American people. A contempt for our minds, our bodies and souls that is so breathtaking most Americans have numbed themselves not to feel it. How can they do this or that awful unthinkable thing, we ask ourselves and each other, knowing no one in power will ever bother to answer us. I'm sure we, the American people, are the butt of jokes by those in power. Our suffering not making a dent in their pursuit of goals that almost always bring more tragedy and degradation to our already fragile, disintegrating republic.
Sometimes, reading a blog, which I do infrequently, I see that generations of Americans have been wilfully crippled, and can no longer spell or write a sentence. The money for their education has gone to blow off someone else's intelligent and beautiful head. Visiting a hospital, I see sick and frightened people who have no clue whether they will get the care they need or whether it will be 15 minutes of an incompetent physician's opinion. If we were loved there would be a doctor free of charge, on every block, with time to listen to us. Visiting our schools, I see no one has seriously thought about teaching Americans what to eat, just as no one at the national helm insists that we take sex education seriously and begin to unencumber our planet of the projected hordes (Earth's view) of coming generations She can no longer tolerate.
Our taxes are collected without fail, with no input from us; sometimes, because we lack jobs, paid with money we have to borrow. Our children are sent places they never dreamed of visiting, to harm and make enemies of people who, prior to their arrival, had thought well of them. Kind, smart, freedom-loving Americans.
When we are offered a John McCain, who is too old for the job (and I cherish old age and old men but not to lead the world when it is ailing), or a George Bush, or a Sarah Palin, how unloved we are as Americans becomes painfully plain. McCain talks of war with the nostalgia and forgetfulness of the very elderly; Palin talks of forcing the young to have offspring they neither want nor can sustain; both of them feel at ease, apparently, with the game in which their candidacy becomes more of a topic of discussion than whether the planet has a future under their leadership.
Where does this leave us average Americans, who feel the chill of global warming, the devastation of war, the terror of the food crisis, the horror of advancing diseases? Hopefully with a sense of awakening: that we have had few opportunities to be led by those who have the capacity to care for us, to love us, and that we, in our lack of love for ourselves, have, too often, not chosen them. Perhaps with the certainty that though we are as we are and sorely imperfect, we still deserve someone in leadership who "gets" us, and that this self-defeating habit of accepting our leaders' contempt need not continue. Maybe with the realisation that we, the people, are truly the leaders, and that we are the ones we have been waiting for.
I write on September 9, my father's birthday. A black farmer in Georgia, he risked his life to vote in the 1930s for a "new deal". If he had lived and not died in his early 60s of overwork, ill health and heartbreak, he would be 100 years old in 2009. Voting in November of 2008 for a candidate with heart I will honour his faith.



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Show AllWhat Our Country Desperately Needs is a Leader Who Loves Us
Too bad there isn't one running...
Yes, and UBL is busy helping others...
Really?
See my above post....
"Crack open a cynic and you will find an angry idealist!"
Castro has sent Cuban doctors all over Latin America to help the afflicted.
Bush has sent American killers all over the Middle East to afflict the helpless.
-- EKATON --
Raph Nader loves us; Cynthia McKinney loves us. Barack Obama doesn't - he loves himself, his words, his "achievement". dear Alice, I love you very much but your support of Barack Obama (I know she hides it in this article through omission) saddens my heart. Why not support the loving black woman, Cynthia McKinney?
It's impossible to "love" freely when you are being bribed by corporate interests.
DENNIS KUCINICH fit the bill and look where the media along with "alleged" Progressives put him. Now you get to reap what you sow....Same kind of shitty leader/different term.
"Crack open a cynic and you will find an angry idealist!"
Ray Berthiaume
I so appreciate these words. I have never read such compassionate concerns. And isn't this the heart of the teachings of all religious leaders?
What's Love Got To Do With It?
These days? Not much. America is filled with fear, anger and hate. Racist America simply will not vote for a black man.
-- EKATON --
but intelligent, thoughtful, non-racist America will.
I'm pretty sure it has everything to do with it. That's why we never talk about it.
You've got that right, funeocons, except when you really love, you don't have to talk about it. You are love, and everything you do or try to do reflects that awareness. That's why we incarnate ... to practice that, to remember that, and to remember where we come from and where everyone ... everything else comes from. Obviously, with all the distractions created from the highly creative human mind, only a few remember because the connection between their hearts and minds remains intact and true. We celebrate them.
We have holidays commemorating their lives. Still, in the next instant most of us are distracted and totally forget who and why we were celebrating. ...
If, funeocons, you're "pretty sure it [Love] has everything to do with it," make Love your practice [and that ain't easy, but what else is there ... really?], and you don't have to talk about it, better that you don't, but you will make a difference in many lives, and they then may make a difference in others' lives too because of you.
LOVE is the Way. It's always been the way. We just have to remember who we really are and that we come from the same Source.
As I've said occasionally on other posts, fortunately, Eternity is one hellava' PLAYground and everybody gets as many turns on the see-saw as they need to have or want to have with every possible variation. That's why it's called Eternity. And it certainly is not limited to inhabitants of a small planet located in a medium-size solar system in a fairly good-size galaxy somewhere in the Universe.
But since this is where we all are this time around, yeah, ... LOVE sure would make everything happier, wouldn't it? If nothing else, that's a sensible conclusion rather than the various "celebrations" of the utter madness and hatefulness that is happening now.
peace ... cm
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THE MEASURE: DEEDS, ... NOT WORDS.
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Nice post
Charity is probably a more appropriate word.
Amazing. She loves both JFK and Castro. So where does Ms. Walker stand on the Bay of Pigs invasion, the Cuban missile crisis, and the embargo? (not to mention JFK and Vietnam)
Even if you don't agree with Walker's given examples of leaders who've loved their people, we should take her words to heart.
We have work to do!
We should be organizing ourselves better to DEMAND that our leaders listen and have compassion for us. That they not just gather incredible wealth while they rape & pillage the planet.
Bail out Wall Street? It makes me sick.
More than enything WE need to gather ourselves up and get into the streets.
To protest, even mount a general strike & be more visible in our outrage!
Because, yes, we know that it's not enough to elect the lesser of two evils.
And yes, I want leaders who don't treat me (and other beings) as disposable-
I DO, too, want leaders who love me.
Thank you, Alice.
We are all leaders.
Are we all leading with love for each other?
Ms. Walker admires Bobby Kennedy for being willing to put his preconceptions behind him and face a reality that was foreign to his world view. I would admire her if she did the same and actually met a person before deciding what they love and don't love. No one disagrees with the current Republican agenda more than I do, but I don't think it ever helps anything to talk about the motivations of people we haven't met.
I also think it is simplistic to focus on an individual as the source of our problems in such a complex world. The republicans are supported by almost half the country, so if there is a lack of love and compassion going on, we need to deal with it as a community problem. When Obama decides to send more troops to Afghanistan or supports Israel or free trade, will we decide that 'he doesn't love us anymore', or will we realize that he is hired by the 290 million of 'us' who have a hard time loving each other?
Actually they seem to be supported by half of half of the country. We must be measured in halves now.
It's shame that this isn't in an American newspaper.
We need a president that loves the world, not just Americans and America. Instead we have an oligarchy who loves their own and either hates or doesn't care about anyone else. Hell, they're all misanthropes if anything 'cause they certainly aren't human.
"Amazing. She loves both JFK and Castro. So where does Ms. Walker stand on the Bay of Pigs invasion, the Cuban missile crisis, and the embargo? (not to mention JFK and Vietnam)."
I wonder about that too. Her view is somewhat rosy in spots, but I agree with the gist of her essay.
Sioux Rose
I love Alice Walker's novels, Color Purple and lesser known, The Temple of My familiar. Because leadership has been centered on the instincts of the warrior, or MARS rules, there has been a corresponding DEFICIT of VENUS, the cosmic counterbalance to Mars. Venus rules love, in addition to art, beauty, culture, diplomacy, peacemaking, balance, negotiation, law and logic. If Venus and Mars were copartners, and their reflection as thus made manifest on earth, we would not see $ going to war rather than negotiation, incomprehensible waste and laying to waste, instead of investments in painting, symphonies, architecture which accrue enormous value over time. We would also see more women and men who can embrace Venus/love/appreciation for more gentle qualities, in office.
Today's "leaders" reflect centuries of Mars-based conditioning, where heroism is tantamount to "how many did you kill?" Insane... Jimmy Carter is a Libra (ruled by Venus) and is an intelligent voice (if he gained enlightenment after his presidency), as is John Dean who sheds light on the dangers of the conservative (a/k/a authoritarian) mindset. Bill Clinton, while a Leo, has Libra as his rising sign and 3 planets in that sign. NO one can say he was not an engenious negotiator, ultimately pulling both parties into one (centrist): that of corporate interests.
Every time ANY individual transcends their own anger to practice peace & forgiveness, LIGHT is sent out into the world. Desmond Tutu is an extremely important teacher of this truth, and as his name TU TU in French translates to "you/you," it would be interesting if persons got together under a TUTY Y TU umbrella to ALL practice exercises in forgiveness, blessing "enemies" at the same hour, as in 2 AM and 2 PM. I wonder if a network of light could be thus built that would cover the world like filaments of a LOVE/Venus based gigantic spiderweb... darkness is penetrated by light and ceases to BE darkness. It's worth a shot... the alternative is more killing, waste of $ on things humanity can ill afford, and the investment in enmity between peoples.
"ANY individual transcends their own anger to practice peace & forgiveness"
Are you one rose?
Yes Rose is one. Her comments often gives me a slight push to repurpose my anger (by her example, not by direct preaching or criticism)
Joe
At this point, I would settle for a leader who isn't a corporate puppet... can you name one?
Okay, I admit to a rhetorical question... can actually can dredge up an handful, but not much more... and certainly not any who are "The Party" candidates.
To the Christians out there I would suggest that if "Jesus" were elected to office; if he did not sleep with the money people to get there, or if he did not do as they directed after he got there----- they would just kill him all over again.
The same applies to any or even ALL of the 'Culture Heroes' anyone could name.
Until the American people move for the full separating of "Corporation and State" they will never have anyone in high office who will protect them and their interests-----------------but then they never have ----yet.
Politicians have done to governing administration what Christians did to spirituality. They use it for partisan and personal reasons to influence and control the world around them.
At this point to heal as a nation we have to get politics out of governing administration.
Making any civil office non-partisan because being one of "the people of this nation" is a non partisan reality with a non-partisan constitution. This is why the constitution has been set aside in partisan governing. It does not serve the intents of those administering their personal, extremist belief system of gov't.
McCain's slogan of "nation" first was carefully chosen because in definition it does not necessarily include all Americans. McCain is telling his Republican party that he will be loyal to them first. Obama could come out at this point with a counter slogan to show he has less partisan intents. "People first" would be a great one. It's a non-partisan message that is inclusive of...all.
Caesar's world not what it seems to be upon the earth? The Elders or Leaders of the Tribes, not in the sense of your type of Leaders, lived with the Tribe. They loved their Tribe & were loved by their Tribe. Days long gone with the Tribal Govts supplanted by Caesar's Rome. The way things are now upon the earth.
Perhaps a few here & their in your style of Govt that are 85 to 95 percent honest, & actually care about the people they represent. Stories of the Pale One, Jesus, living with Tribes long long ago & teaching them. Wovoca said Jesus visited him in this world & that is not impossible from the realms of all possibilities.
Your Nation is far to divided into all sorts of factions with the Banks & Corporations running things. The Book of Revelation points them out as the Buyers & Sellers of things, and does not speak of them in a good light at all.
Yeah, if Jesus returned in a flesh body they would kill him all over again so he'd probably live amongst the Tribes if he came to this neck of the woods on the planet.
A leader who loves us all is likely to face not only opposition hell from Congress but possible coup attempts. Just ask FDR.
In fact, I don't think America and the future president Obama will change things as fundamentally as we would like to think (and as much as we really need). The reason I say this is that things are still not as bad as they were in the Great Depression--the last time there was REAL reform in this country.
Allthough the current economy is nothing to be happy about, it was far worse in the early 30's when FDR was swept into office. Then we had an official unemployment rate of 25% (unofficially probably closer to 40%) and those with jobs had sharply cut wages. The present housing crisis, while bad, can't compare to back then; when in New York alone 5000 families a week were being evicted. When banks were failing by the thousands. My dad was a farmer and he remembers that corn was selling for - 5 cents a bushel--you took corn to the local elevator and you had to pay them five cents to take it.
Americans are so wrapped-up in the myth of Yankee self-reliance that only something as drastic as the Great Depression makes us look at real change.
Another critical factor present back in the 30's but not present today--a strong sense of solidarity in the laboring classes. It was the fear of the laboring classes in this country finally uniting and taking over the truly frightened the ruling economic elite into allowing fundamental reforms to save themselves.
Even with all these factors on his side, FDR still faced tremendous opposition to his reforms; and even an attempted military coup to drive him from office.
So while I do feel that Obama will make some changes, I don't think he or the American people--under the present situation--are going to truly tackle the fundamental problems that need to be tackled for true reform to take place.
"..I don't think he or the American people"
Thank you, we cannot have one without the other.
What is also important is a leader who is lovable. Obama and Biden are taking this election campaign seriously. The republicans obviously are not. Respect for the electorate is a good first step to being loveable.
Whatever could she mean? Doesn't McCain call us his friends? And aren't Bush and Palin just brimming with God's love, working in the spirit of the Sermon on the Mount to make the world a better, more just and peaceful place?
Alex
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Nannie,
I love your passion and your zeal in spreading the Nader message. Do not stop, endure the slings and arrows of lesser folk......In solidarity.
We see things, not as they are, but as we are.
Anais Nin
Until I see this:
"Ralph Nader worked tirelessly to unite all the various parties whose tickets he has run on over the years into one viable third party that is now giving the two corporate parties a run for their money."
I'm not voting for Ralph again.
err "various parties"..He ran on the Green ticket as an accomodation to them, he was never a member of that party. He runs today as a true Independent. Prior to entering his first Presidential race he went to both candidates, Bush and Gore, to advance a liberal agenda as part of their platforms. Only after Bush refused to see him and Gore rebuffed him did he enter the race.
You are certainly free to vote for whomsoever you choose, but you are far less free to post distortions of the truth.
We see things, not as they are, but as we are.
Anais Nin
Distortions of the truth?
In a short online search, I found that Nader has run/is running on various state ballots as Independant, Green, Reform, Populist Party (Alaska), Peace and Justice Party and Independence Party (New York), Oregon Peace Party, a "New" Independant party in New Mexico and Hawaii, the Michigan Natural Law Party, California's Peace and Freedom Party, and perhaps more that I couldn't find.
But how many do I need to prove my assertion that Ralph Nader, now on his fourth run for President, has failed to unite Progressives in a VIABLE THIRD PARTY.
I have personally supported Ralph Nader with my vote, and I have been disappointed. I respect his work as a consumer advocate but I'm tired of hearing how voting for Nader will somehow cure what ails America.
As for distortions of the truth, Nader's first presidential race was in 1996 as the Green party nominee:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4O47n6K-qCk
Bush and Gore were 2000
Amen...
Why doesn't Ralph Nader run for Congress or Senate and replace some awful Republican or useless Democrat? It is possible he could win and have a permanent platform for his ideas, a stage on which to contend. This is a serious suggestion.
Joe
Pathetic. North Korea has their Dear Leader. America wants someone who loves them to lead them.
How do you expect a self declared Globalist like Obama to love America (thats the kind of love his father showed, love them and leave them, and move on to greener pastures). If you read his book Dreams from My Father, you will read about a man who harbours great anger against many Americans based on their color. In his words. His Pastor of 20 years does not seem to have much love for America either.
Recognizing the bad things America has done is one thing. Hating America is another. Despite Obamas sweet talk (obligation to serve, and his belief that the next war should be a war for all Americans, and not just those who volunteer), he will not bring "love" to America.
His VP choice led the War on Drugs that has given America 25% of the worlds prison population despite only 5% of the worlds population (most of them African Americans and Hispanics). He also supported the Bankruptcy Protection Act of 2005 making it harder for individuals to go into bankruptcy to protect the corporations who gave them debt and do not pay a living wage. Supported the Iraq War. Led the push for the NATO war over Kosovo (we now know this war was also under false pretenses and due to oil pipelines).
That kind of loving we and the rest of the world can do without.
Yeah, his handlers choice of Biden is still one that has not been discussed much.
I kinda thought he went for an older guy that had the 'experience' many said he was lacking.
Other than that I didn't get it.
Seems kinda Ironic that McCain chose Palin after they slammed Obama for lack of experience, though this is not new and many of CD's best have already discussed this, it seems to me that a form of cat and mouse is always played out between these two groups. I guess the public loves the chase.
I respect Alice Walker and admire her as a writer. I have taught different works of hers in the classroom. I also have to disagree with her thesis.
A love of the people might happen under many different forms of government, including monarchy, oligarchy, theocracy, and so on. I am committed to a government by the consent of the governed.
Under these conditions, we need to find more love for ourselves and each other rather than to locate it in leaders, although these days I'd settle for simple decency.
Thank you serious. I agree with you, and how nicely put too.
Self loathing seems to me to be the real problem, and we don't even seem able to treat ourselves or others with simple decency, and in loathing self we also have loathing for others as we see through our own eyes a country of loathing.
I want a leader who loves the US Constitution.
I'd settle for respect.
Yeah, Johnny Boy loved us so much he sent thousands of boys to die for a continuation of French colonialism in Southeast Asia and nearly started WWlll by putting those missle bases in Turkey. Let's not forget who supported the Bay of Pigs invasion to return Cuba to that great humanitarian Batista and the Mafia. JFK was certainly no Dali Llama!!!
I'd settle for this: What America needs is a leader with a brain.
I agree with Ms. Walker, yet I view the overall situation with a slightly different perspective that I feel people can relate to better.... Our American culture hates poor people. No matter their color or gender. Poor people have been deemed the enemy for decades. Now that we are all poorer than ever, the hatred has expanded to encircle us from every conceivable angle.
In general, our leaders (political, media and financial intellectuals) have all joined in with a chorus of poor people are lazy and stupid and deserving of NOTHING. Not love, not understanding, not respect, and definitely not funding of any kind. Definitely not higher wages, afforadable loans, educated children, and the list goes on and on.
In contrast, those with money, status and power deserve special tax breaks, special laws, hand outs, special deals and the list goes on and on and on....
If this piece had been written by ANYone else, it's entirely reasonable to doubt it would even BE published -- at commondreams, or anywhere else.
This is silly, possibly even worse than Walker's "Lest We Forget: An Open Letter to My Sisters Who Are Brave", which see:
http://www.commondreams.org/archive/2008/03/31/7998/
Nonsense, Alice:
What you folks need is someone who earns YOUR love.
By his or her responsible behavior.
Period.