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Don't Be Stupid, Cupid: How to Show Your Love Responsibly
What classic Valentine's gifts are linked to exploitation—and what can you do about it?
For holidays tainted by commercialism, Valentine's Day gives Christmas a run for the money—big money. The National Retail Federation estimates Americans will spend $17.6 billion on Valentine's gifts this year, including $4.1 billion on jewelry, $1.8 billion on flowers and $1.5 billion on candy. But for consumers with a conscience, the very things Madison Avenue markets as expressions of love are some of the worst stuff you can buy.
(Photo via Flickr by ardenstreet)
Chocolate
A heart-shaped box of truffles may be a sweet dream for chocolate lovers, but it's a nightmare for many workers. Most of the world's cocoa beans come from plantations in Ghana and Ivory Coast, where a 2010 BBC investigation exposed the widespread use of child labor, human trafficking and even slavery to harvest cocoa.
Flowers
Most roses and other flowers sold in the United States are imported from Colombia, where the cut flower industry is also known to use child workers and forced labor. Because the flowers have to look perfect, they're treated with immense amounts of toxic pesticides, which contributes to high rates of lung and nerve disease in a workforce dominated by women and children.
Jewelry
Child labor, forced labor and dangerous conditions are well-documented in the mining industry. Gold mining uses mercury and cyanide to separate the metal from ore, and leaves behind mountains of toxic waste—more than 20 tons of waste to make one gold ring. The film Blood Diamond dramatized the role that diamond mining plays in fueling and funding brutal wars in Liberia, Sierra Leone, Angola and other African nations that have killed and displaced millions of people.
So should you boycott Valentine's Day? I'm not. I'm all for showing my loved ones how much I care, on Valentine's Day, and every day. A hand-crafted card, a heartfelt note, a home-cooked meal or (ahem) a special favor are all ways to express your love.
And for a gift that keeps on giving you can get involved in efforts to change the way these destructive industries do business. Joining a campaign not only amplifies your voice but brings you together with others who share your concerns.
Last February, Change.org mounted a petition drive that persuaded 1-800-Flowers to add Fair Trade-certified bouquets to its collection and create a code of conduct that prohibits its suppliers from using forced and child labor. Now the Fairness in Flowers campaign is asking consumers to write other major florists urging them to ensure their flowers are not grown and processed with the use of exploited labor or child labor.
More than 100,000 consumers have joined the No Dirty Gold campaign, which works to get jewelers to promise to use only gold mined responsibly. To date, 80 leading jewelry retailers worldwide have signed the pledge. Global Witness, a human rights group that helped bring attention to the bloody truth about the diamond trade, recently pulled out of a flawed United Nations-backed program to certify conflict-free diamonds, but remains active in the campaign to reform the industry.
OK, here's the toughest one to pass by (at least for me)—chocolate. Global Exchange is among the groups working with schools, churches and community groups to get leading chocolate companies to promise that their sweet treats don't exploit or endanger workers on African cocoa plantations.
Real love doesn't trash the planet or force children to work in dangerous mines or pesticide-drenched fields. There's no reason that jewelry, chocolates and flowers have to take such a heavy toll. This Valentine's Day, let's show our love not only to our sweethearts, friends and family, but to the Earth and people around the world.
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Show AllWith all this outsourcing I'm surprised Americans can afford all this commercialism anyways. Oh wait, that's why we're slaves through debt.
clearly, our traditions support our behaviors, which are destructive...
attempting to modify labor laws while not addressing the chemical processes underlying is no good...
we must focus on ceasing the industrial activities feeding our nostalgic lusts, not on bettering the ancillary conditions...
do not buy the gold ring, regardless of source...
do not buy the flowers, or the cocoa...
do not perpetuate the idea that one should...
perpetuate the idea that our traditions must either evolve beyond manufacturing, or pass into memory...
we have no more time for manufacturing...the world requires healing...
Only a fool forgets the chocolate. A fool who gets to sleeps on the couch.
Annie seems to have forgotten 2 other options: cash and real estate.
And a third: forgoing gift-giving altogether.
"Our tokens of compliment and love are for the most part barbarous. Rings and jewels are not gifts, but apologies for gifts. The only true gift is a portion of thyself." (Emerson)
Oh, that option! Just kidding. I think the last time I actually bothered to do anything for Valentine's day was in grade school, and the primary objective of that card exchange was to try to obtain as many candy hearts as possible. It was like Halloween without the cool costumes. Kids' Valentine's cards are the best!
Where can I get heart-shaped fair-trade non-gm organic soy burgers?
abvodvarka, you can have your heart shaped chocolate!
The author titles this article "Don't Be Stupid, Cupid: How to Show Your Love Responsibly" then with all due respect to the esteemed writer makes not one suggestion of how to show love responsibly.
While I appreciate the writer building awareness of the issue especially the link to blood diamonds and labor abuse in the chocolate industry. Many don't realize where that handful of M&M's come from. I feel we need alternatives and there are many.
Jewelry: reduce reuse, recycle. We all know that saying. Think estate sales, thrift stores. These gems already exist. The gems could be re-set to your liking or keep it the way bought if you and your dearie like it.
Or forgo gems entirely whether it's carved wood, woven fabric, enamel, agates (which are often USA found, polished etc) repurposed materials, recycled glass, woven wire ... we could go on. Think outside the box and step awaaaaay from the big box store and make it yourself or find a craftsperson.
No local craftspeople? There's wonderful stuff on Etsy, here's one I like who weaves jewelry and uses repurposed materials:
http://www.etsy.com/shop/wildbraidart
I could start a blog on local, ethically sourced jewelry for men and women that could delight. Wait, I did start a blog on local options. Hold that thought.
Native American jewelry is made here and helps build an at risk community. Gems when used are often native to USA also. Do your good research as much can be a "knock off" outsourced. But many good local artists work their craft.
Then there's http://www.brilliantearth.com/
Gold, platinum, silver is all recycled. Gems are ethically sourced, no blood diamonds.
Our rings are from there. Service is excellent.
This is just one of many jewelers aware of the issues who will let you and your dearie indulge your wish for jewelry without the guilt.
Flowers: Your local farm market will have flowers that are .... wait for it .... local. Maybe even organic. Maybe even picked by union labor or from my cousins small organic farm.
Flowers don't have to be cut. Does your dearie garden or want to start? Check your local nursery for bulbs, native plants. Many gardeners would rather have a dozen bulbs, or a dozen plant starts that will delight for years to come than a dozen cut flowers. Hint, hint ;-)
Think edible flowers and colorful garden plants! Nasturtiums, artichokes (really a thistle), colorful sages, purple cabbage, opal basil ... I could go on and on. If your dearie pie gardens or wants to gather up colorful plant starts in a beautiful basket. Create an arrangement that will delight the eye for the day and the palate and planet for years to come.
Chocolate: to "abvodvarka" who asks where can one get heart shaped Fair Trade chocolate? I agree that a life without chocolate is barely worth living.
Luckily many wonderful sources of Fair Trade abound, ethically grown chocolate. Yes, it does cost more but yes it's also so much better you may never go back to "slave chocolate".
TCHO is one local to us:
http://madeinusareviews.blogspot.com/2011/09/happy-labor-day-is-your-chocolate.html
Theo is also:
http://madeinusareviews.blogspot.com/2010/05/body-by-chocolate.html
Hint: Theo does a pink peppercorn/cherry chocolate bar ONLY around Valentines day and only availably locally. It is wonderful.
Just a few ideas. I'm sure we all agree to show our love to our dear ones and the planet every day in every way and not leave it for a one day non-sustainable blow out! It's the actions and feelings not the chocolate and flowers. But when you want chocolate and flowers you can have it too ;-)
Now I'm off to edit the blog for more local, ethical, VD day ideas for next year.
Thanks for reminding me!
The purchasing of cards, candy, flowers or jewelry for a Hallmark Valentine's Day demonstrates only Americans' love for consumption and ersatz expressions of caring.
As Kristin Lenz wrote in the Washington Post: "Valentine’s Day may be cast as a “Hallmark holiday” — a manufactured love-fest in which the depth of your feelings for someone is measured by the corresponding dent in your wallet..."
Uh... you really don't have to Buy anything to show love for someone. You really can subvert the 'Hallmark' holiday by random acts of kindness towards anyone.
Sometimes a heart is just a heart...
Peace & Love
Pet
Real love is that of traditional societies such as the IKung and others in Pacific with no exposure to European influence or colonization. But some Europeans and their descendants make a good faith effort as they move toward where their ancestors from sub Sahran Africa were and where egalitarianism lies. We must move in that direction or go the way of the dinosaurs. Extinct is forever.
We are all naturally capable of love. It's deep inside us all. We must allow ourselves to embrace our humanity. In this crazy world it can be difficult. That's part of where we all come from as modern humans or homo sapiens and why we not the lion inhabit every corner of this planet while the bodily stronger lion only inhabits a small part of Africa except in zoos. Society does exists, and it's the reason we have any existence at all.
Take that Thatcherites and wannabes.
Here's your choice Los Angeles for Wednesday, February 15th--you can go to Obama's $35,800 a plate dinner, you can go to Will Rogers Memorial Park and help raise money for the hungry, or you can stay home (or go out) and pretend like everything is OK. Your choice.
Occupy LA--doing what the president SHOULD be doing.
love, like god, is a verb -
of the imperative variety.
How many of us texted or used a cell phone or other wireless device to send our loved ones a message this Valentines Day? This is by and far more destructive than all of the items discussed in the article. The harm starts with the Coltan mined in the Congo leading to enslavement, war, rape and environmental destruction. Then we have the factories where workers are treated terribly. Iphone workers in China are so desperate to get out of this that they commit suicide. And then there are the microwaves. This Class 2B Carcinogen emitted from our wireless devices hurts us, the user; the person receiving the message;, and all of those who must live near the transmitter infrastructure. Microwave exposure is also implicated in brain damage and sperm damage. It causes a suble stress response leading to functional impairment. And finally, we have all of the pollution from our use as it spews out ever more CO2 and the ewaste when we toss our devices for the latest device to come out on the market. Please go to http://www.environmentalhealthtrust.org to learn more.
Good article and good points!
"The Story of Stuff," gal you're so downright for real and unpretentious. OK! You have a good heart too.