Stuff happens, especially (still) to girls struggling to grow up whole. Acknowledging "how unbelievably painful and confusing it is to navigate the world as a teenage girl" and the unceasing stories of being "victimized, scared, confused, ashamed, alone, defeated, empowered, defiant, triumphant," Jezebel writer Lindy West has begun “I Believe You | It’s Not Your Fault” - sub-headed "Notes From Your Big Sister" - a sort of Girls' Guide to Rape Culture Tumblr in which women who've "been through some stuff" offer an alternative narrative to what might be available to girls by telling their own stories in essays and letters addressed "Dear Teenager" or "Dear Little Sister." Both devastatingly and inspiringly, West has been flooded with chilling, moving, intensely personal stories, many never told before, with telling titles like "Sometimes He Was Good To Me" and "They Just Wanted To Leave A Mark." Talk to us about anything, she urged readers, and they are.
"Can we tell stories and answer questions and offer solidarity and resources and maybe break some cycles before they begin...without coming across like dorky, hand-wringing moms? After all, so many of us are still those kids...We’re here, and there are so many of us...We’re all throwing ourselves against the same wall, and we have been for generations. We might as well compare scars."