September 20's prime target for press critics, social scientists and
feminists was the New York Times front-page story "Many Women at Elite
Colleges Set Career Path to Motherhood," by Louise Story (Yale '03).
Through interviews and a questionnaire e-mailed to freshmen and senior
women residents of two Yale colleges (dorms), Story claims to have found
that 60 percent of these brainy and energetic young women plan to park
their expensive diplomas in the bassinet and become stay-home mothers.
Over at Slate, Jack Shafer slapped the Times for using weasel words
("many," "seems") to make a trend out of anecdotes and vague
impressions: In fact, Story presents no evidence that more Ivy League
undergrads today are planning to retire at 30 to the playground than
ten, twenty or thirty years ago. Simultaneously, an armada of bloggers
shredded her questionnaire as biased (hint: If you begin with "When you
have children," you've already skewed your results) and denounced her
interpretation of the answers as hype. What she actually found, as the
writer Robin Herman noted in a crisp letter to the Times, was that 70
percent of those who answered planned to keep working full or part time
through motherhood. Even by Judith Miller standards, the Story story was
pretty flimsy. So great was the outcry that the author had to defend her
methods in a follow-up on the Times website three days later.
With all that excellent insta-critiquing, I feared I'd lumber into print
too late to add a new pebble to the sling. But I did find one place
where the article is still Topic No. 1: Yale. "I sense that she had a
story to tell, and she only wanted to tell it one way," Mary Miller,
master of Saybrook, one of Story's targeted colleges, told me. Miller
said Story met with whole suites of students and weeded out the women
who didn't fit her thesis. Even among the ones she focused on, "I
haven't found that the students' views are as hard and fast as Story
portrayed them." (In a phone call Story defended her research methods,
which she said her critics misunderstood, and referred me to her
explanation on the web.) One supposed future homemaker of America posted
an anonymous dissection of Story's piece at www.mediabistro.com. Another
told me in an e-mail that while the article quoted her accurately, it
"definitely did not turn out the way I thought it would after numerous
conversations with Louise." That young person may be sadder but
wiser--she declined to let me interview her or use her name--but history
professor Cynthia Russett, quoted as saying that women are "turning
realistic," is happy to go public with her outrage. Says Russett, "I may
have used the word, but it was in the context of a harsh or forced
realism that I deplored. She made it sound like this was a trend of
which I approved. In fact, the first I heard of it was from Story, and
I'm not convinced it exists." In two days of interviewing professors,
grad students and undergrads, I didn't find one person who felt Story
fairly represented women at Yale. Instead, I learned of women who had
thrown Story's questionnaire away in disgust, heard a lot of complaints
about Yale's lack of affordable childcare and read numerous
scathing unpublished letters to the Times, including a particularly
erudite one from a group of sociology graduate students. Physics
professor Megan Urry had perhaps the best riposte: She polled her class
of 120, using "clickers" (electronic polling devices used as a teaching
tool). Of forty-five female students, how many said they planned "to be
stay-at-home primary parent"? Two. Twenty-six, or 58 percent, said they
planned to "work full time, share home responsibilities with
partner"--and good luck to them, because 33 percent of the men said they
wanted stay-home wives.
The most interesting question about Story's article is why the Times
published it--and on page one yet. After all, as Shafer pointed out, it
had run an identical story, "Many Young Women Now Say They'd Pick Family
Over Career," on the front page December 28, 1980. (He even turned up
one of its star subjects, Princeton alum Mary Anne Citrino, who says she
was completely misrepresented by the Times: She never wanted to stay
home and never did.) I'm particularly grateful to Shafer for digging up
that old clip, because somehow I had formed the erroneous impression
that the Times used to be less sexist than it is now--the week Story
made the front page also saw an article uncritically reporting a
drug-company study that claimed female executives are addled by
menopause, and a Styles piece about the menace to society posed by
mothers pushing luxury strollers on Manhattan sidewalks. All that was
missing was one of those columns in which John Tierney explains that
women, bless their hearts, lack the competitive drive to win at
Scrabble.
Story's article is essentially an update on Lisa Belkin's 2003 Times
Magazine cover story about her Princeton classmates, whose
marginalization at work after having children was glowingly portrayed as
an "opt-out revolution" and which claimed that women "don't run the
world" because "they don't want to." What's painful about the way the
Times frames work-family issues is partly its obsessive focus on
the most privileged as bellwethers of American womanhood--you'd never
know that most mothers who work need the money. But what's also
depressing is the way the Times lumps together women who want to take a
bit of time off or work reasonable hours--the hours that everybody
worked not so long ago--with women who give up their careers for good.
Cutting back to spend time with one's child shouldn't be equated with
lack of commitment to one's profession. You would not know, either, that
choices about how to combine work and motherhood are fluid and
provisional and not made in a vacuum. The lack of good childcare
and paid parental leave, horrendous work hours, inflexible career
ladders, the still-conventional domestic expectations of far too many
men and the industrial-size helpings of maternal guilt ladled out by the
media are all part of it.
Wouldn't you like to read a front-page story about that?
Katha Pollitt has written for The Nation since 1980.
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