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Reflecting on War, and Those Who Do Not
I come from a line of tremendous English women. My grandmother, Hilda, will celebrate her 94th birthday this year. October 18 was the 93rd anniversary of her father's death. 
He died in the trenches of France in 1917. It has never been clear to me whether Hilda actually met him or not. The one person who would know for sure--her mother Edith--died at the age of 37 after cutting herself on a tin can and developing a fatal sepsis. Hilda was an orphan, raised by her older sister.
A long time ago, I blogged about Robert Raymond, mentioning only that I had this photo and his name. To my astonishment, a military historian read my blog and found Robert's records for me. Suddenly, after all these years, we not only knew when he had died, but where he was buried. Before that, my grandmother had no idea where he lay. By the time I found this out, she was too old to travel, but I have made a pledge that I will visit Robert's grave; I will sit and talk to him and tell him about his granddaughter, great-granddaughter, and the two great-great granddaughters who issued from my body. If fortune is kind, they will be with me, and can connect with the man that none of us ever knew.
I have this photo of Robert, and I stare at it, trying to imagine what his life was like. And I try to picture the day that Edith received the news that the man whose child she was carrying in her arms had died in the war. I imagine that it was a telegram delivered the news. Perhaps she had just finished feeding Hilda, and the child slept upon her shoulder while Edith dusted. I see her, as the color drains from her face and her knees go weak and she keeps herself from screaming lest she wake their baby.
She must have missed her man. He was only 25, a couple of years younger than she was, and I imagine they were passionate, devoted lovers before his nation sent him off to fight in its most-wasteful of all wars.
She was not alone, of course. England gave up a generation of young men to World War I. As did France, and German, Austria-Hungary. And for what? A few re-drawn borders? The honor of a few noblemen? I can only think of World War I with rage.
Its reminders are everywhere in Europe. The monuments to it list more names than you would think could live in the tiny villages through which you travel. But that's what happens when you lose a generation. A generation. And English widows raised their boys only to watch as their sons went off to fight another war.
I wish I knew something more about Robert. I wish I knew what made him laugh. I wonder who his mates were, who he met down at the local for a pint after work. Did he carry a photo of Edith in his jacket? As he was dying, did he think of the children (my grandmother's half-sister, Jessie) that he would never see again? Did he wonder how Edith would carry on without him?
In France, this summer, my lover and I drove the coast of Normandy, passing by the landing beaches of D-Day. The loss of life is unfathomable, and when you visit the Cimitiere Americaine, the acres of white crosses and Stars of David point out to you just how small and insignificant your life is. After all, if this many men could have been sacrificed trying to take small stretches of beach, how many total souls were lost during that war that was never supposed to happen?
On the 11th hour of the the 11th day of the 11th month in 1918, those who had fought in The Great War swore it would never happen again. Twenty-one years later, tanks rolled across Flanders fields, and bombs dropped from the sky onto once-peaceful villages. This time, the war was justified, but the end result was the same. Mass destruction. The loss of a generation of men. And memorials by the score scattered across the French countryside like milkweed.
Outside a castle in a small town in Normany is a pyramid. Comprised of sand taken from Utah beach, the memorial is to the World War II dead. What makes this memorial unique, is that, unlike the stone obelisks we build to stand forever as testament to our love affair with war, this pyramid is intended to erode away. Buried within it are metallic objects recovered from the battlefields: bullets, guns, pieces of boots, helmets. Relics of the objects that were worn by, or killed, human beings. The idea behind the pyramid is that, as the sand wears away, objects will be freed, so that future generations may feel with their own hands these relics of war.
As I listen to George Bush explain his reasoning for sending men and women off to slaughter, I long to take him to these places that I have seen. I want him to wander the cemeteries, see the memorials, notice that, even now, flowers are placed on the graves by those whose relatives were lost. He wouldn't have to travel as far as Europe: I'm sure there are military dead buried near his home.
I wish he could meet Hilda, hear from her lips what it was like to grow up without a father. Perhaps, God willing, he would finally begin to understand what he has wrought.
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Show AllA most excellent article by Ms. Berry. Despite the fact that Veterans Day is one of the most difficult days of the year for me as it reminds me of the many Vietnamese whose deaths I had caused when I was in Vietnam, I will still read the searing poems that were written by the trench poets of The Great War.
As for GW Bush I do not believe that it would mean much, if at all, to him were he to visit the many graves where so many victims of so many senseless wars are buried. One of the definitions of a psychopath is someone who has no empathy or compassion toward someone. That would seem to describe the moral character of George W. Bush if not also Barack Obama as evidenced by the many innocent Afghans and Pakistanis and the people of Yemen and Somalia who have felt the sting of Obama's 500 lb. bombs and drone missiles.
My penance part 1 68,69
DRAGON and FAIRY
Are there not legends, stories and what are called myths by many who know not the truth? Yea there are many from the American lands, the African lands, the European lands and, of course the vast and varied Asian lands and this is the true story of the creation of the Viet peoples . In the vastness of time where August Heaven had yet to create the lair of the Dragon, which is the sea and the land where the Fairy might reside. She preferred the height and majesty of the mountains for they were closer to her real home which was August Heaven.
The Fairy came down from her original home, which was to see what had been created on this place called the earth. She came down to the mountains of the north between the land of Viet and China. China would have us believe the Viet peoples are of the Chinese and I say nay, nay for the Fairy lady is from August Heaven and is come to see the creation with all the wonderful sights. How she did marvel at the land that was so beautiful and varied; was it as it is today? How much time in years did her walk through the Viet land happen? Yea, it would be in a time before this time; It would be difficult to say it was the same.
The Dragon had come from August Heaven but knew not of the Fairy lady because when he came to be in the water where he lived and ruled the water world and the land he gave up a good portion of his memory of his original home ; it is ever thus for all as we forget our original home! Why did he pick the water? Is not water the more true measure of life on this earth? Are not the Viet peoples 98% water, as are all others of the earth? He had powers of magic and so much more and yet why give up a heaven? Was it to rule; even if the rule was fair and always with justice and compassion? Was it to experience the living, the interacting with all the other creations around in the water and land? The choices, yea even our choices are ever there for all to make.
The Dragon had been in the sea tending to his Kingly duties and had occasion to be on the land when he saw the Fairy lady and had an immediate reaction to her beauty and charms so that he changed from a dragon to a handsome Prince and with all the powers of persuasion at his command he asked for her hand in marriage. “Fair lady, fair lady whence did thee come thee that my heart should hunger so for your hand, the hand that would bring thy heart next to mine”? And how could she, a Fairy lady, know of the Dragon King’s disguise as a Prince and so she said “Ah, my Prince it will be for a life of two hearts joined into one that give me my courage to say yes and be with you always”.
Part2 My small penance. As the Prince was still the Dragon King the Fairy lady bore him a bag full of eggs as is the wont of nature to follow the Dragon King of the water; for was he not of the earth already and she a being from August Heaven not yet tied to the earth? Yet he considered this a bad omen and threw the bag into a field. Why, oh why would he do this the mother would ask? “Are not the eggs of thy body, art thou not a Dragon King with magic and power at thy hands“? Did her plea’s, maybe to August Heaven, or his magic hatch the eggs and there came forth one hundred boys who needed no earthly nourishment ever and grew into handsome young men blessed with the minds and with courage that would vanquish any foe.
As was his nature the Dragon king left the Fairy Lady on the land with all their sons and she knowing that all children should grow up with a father as all need the direction that comes from both parents even if the children have their own minds and are of extraordinary courage. “Where is the heart that was set next to mine; why leave me alone here as a widow with one hundred children that would see their father; is it not the duty of even a Dragon King to do so”? And so the Dragon King came out of the water and talked to the Fairy Lady.
He came and said to her “you are immortal and of the August Heaven and my life is of the dragon breed and even with the magic at my command there is naught that we may do to keep our hearts as one; ah that it could be otherwise”! She being an immortal understood but does understanding bring that elusive quality called and seen as happiness? “What of the boys”? She asked; “I will take them to my home and they will be as their mother and see to the wellbeing of all who would inhabit the land of the mountains that are closest to my true home; for we will be as the angels who nurture and protect”. He said “Nay; mother of these my sons for there is need of princes to minister and protect what is here in the dragons lair and all the creations on land also; we will be as one mind to them as you have the fifty to do what is asked of them and the fifty here will be as princes in this kingdom”. With that they all said their goodbyes and went their way.
How beautiful and tragic at the same time but the Vietnamese have been a fierce and independent peoples forever as is shown in their history but with a tolerance for differing clans or peoples that inhabit Vietnam it is a must and they will be as one in any dispute with outsiders.
Enjoy; Tony 10/24/2009
"This time, the war was justified, but the end result was the same."
How in the HELL do you figure WW2 was "justified"?!?! Wars don't just happen. Wars have a beginning. Adolph Hitler started WW2. How was that justified? Yes, of course, resistance to German forces was necessary and justified. But WW2, itself? WTF?
WW1 was a waste and America should have never got involved. However once involved, if the allies would have listened to Pershing and taken the war all the way to Barlin, we would not have had a WW2.
I walked on the Battlefields of France. I saw the beautiful cemetaries where brave men from all over the world died. War is the most obsene word in the human language. I read a story once from a little girl who wrote as an adult to the Readers Digest years ago that she had visited the Ossuary of Verdun and just visiting the Battlefield of Death as Verdun is known in history still gives her nightmares. If war does that to a visitor what must it do to the soldiers and their families? What does it to to the survivors? Think about that as you go through life.
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Hello, David--
My name is Dusty.
I am your night nurse.
I will stay with you.
I will check your vitals
.. every 15 minutes.
I will document inevitability.
I will hang more blood
.. and give you
.. something for your pain.
I will stay with you and
.. touch your face.
Yes, of course, I will
.. write your mother and
.. tell her you were brave.
I will write your mother and
.. tell her how much
.. you loved her.
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Dusty is a real person, and for a while I had the pleasure of exchanging email with her.
Trylon